Often, if couples in Colorado cannot come to an agreement, the courts will determine a parenting plan for them. You may be able to prevent this if you and your ex are able to reach an understanding about the issue. Our attorneys at Kaplan Law are skilled at guiding unwilling parents through this process and helping them realize the benefits of mediation.
One reason this method may be best for your family is that parents can take the time to determine together what the child’s best interest is. Psychology Today states that, barring circumstances involving abuse, the best arrangement is one that gives equal time to both parents. Children who do not develop a relationship with one parent will often harbor an emotional wound for years until they are adults and can take the opportunity to reconnect with the lost parent.
Another reason that mediation often helps is that you can realize what courts will take into account and what they will not. Many parents attempt to sway judges by describing their ex’s faults, but this does nothing. Everyone has faults and attempting to make someone look bad will only cause you to look irrational. Again, this is assuming there is no abuse.
Mediation can also help you avoid implementing rules that will hurt you in the end, such as allowing things at one parent’s home that are not allowed at the other. Parents who are not on the same page can easily end up with children who learn early how to manipulate them against each other. For more information on mediation, visit our website.